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Children start gaining emotional skills as babies and gain new skills as they get older. Not all children develop at the same pace. Children express themselves in different ways and it is normal for primary school aged children to lose control of their emotions or show defiance while their emotional skills are developing.
Primary school aged children emotional skills include the following:
Emotional dysfunction is the extreme side of not being able to manage emotions and difficulty calming down when upset and in children might include:
Children who don’t have the ability to control their feelings or behaviour can have a harder time making or keeping friends. Children who are rejected by their peers are also more likely to get bullied.
If you have concerns for your child, you should seek an appointment with a Counsellor or Psychologist. Sometimes medication is needed but treatment is complicated due to concerns about how medication will affect their brain development.
You can guide your child and encourage positive behaviours to help them learn to behave in appropriate ways. You should set clear house rules and enforce them fairly. When your child follows the rules, praise your child. Also showing respect to your child even when you are disciplining them and helping them work through their emotional or behavioural issues.
Questions you can ask your Health Care Team:
It is difficult seeing your child not being able to regulate their emotions and it can affect the whole family. Talking to a Counsellor or Psychologist to help the whole family can help ease the anxiety for you and your child.
“A child whose behaviour pushes you away is a child who needs
connection before anything else” - Kelly Bartlett